Know the Signs: Is It Teen Behavior or Something More?

Figuring out if your child is using substances can be challenging. Many warning signs look like typical teen moodiness or can be symptoms of mental health issues like anxiety or depression. Trust your instincts. If you suspect something is wrong, it’s always better to err on the side of caution. This guide will help you understand what to look for and how to approach the situation.
Trust your senses and observe their behavior after they’ve been out with friends.

Use Your Nose: Have a face-to-face conversation when they get home. Smells of smoke, alcohol, chemical or other substances can linger on their breath, hair, and clothes.

Look Them in the Eyes: Are their eyes red, heavy-lidded, or are their pupils unusually large (dilated) or small (constricted)? This can be a key indicator.

Watch Their Behavior: Are they unusually loud, dizzy, clumsy, or lethargic? Are they laughing hysterically at nothing or stumbling? These could be signs of impairment.

Check Their Spaces: If you have serious concerns, it may be necessary to search their room, backpack, or car. Be prepared to explain that this is done out of love and concern for their safety.

Common Hiding Spots: Inside drawers, under beds, inside over-the-counter medicine containers, inside books, or in fake containers like soda cans. Hidden empty spray paint or solvent containers, and chemical-soaked rags or clothing are signs of inhalant substance abuse (huffing)

Also, pay attention to their digital life—texts and social media can contain clues.

A mother and daughter engage in a conversation over breakfast, with an array of food on the table.

Your Next Steps: How to Respond

Finding evidence—or finding nothing at all—requires a calm and loving response.

 

Visit Drug Free’s website to view sample conversations on how to approach and respond to your teen.

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You Are Not Alone.

Having these worries is a sign of your care and commitment. Trust your instincts.

 

Need immediate support or someone to talk to?

  • Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
  • Behavioral Health Hotline is available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year by phone call and text at 833-773-2445 (BHHL), and online chat at masshelpline.com.
Final Note: You know your child best. By educating yourself on the signs, you are taking a powerful first step to help them navigate these challenging years safely.

For more information about how to protect your kids, visit:

Massachusetts Overdose Prevention Helpline: Call (800) 972-0590 if you are using alone. An operator will stay on the line with you and send help if you become unresponsive.

National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA)

Overview: Provides research-based information on drugs, drug use, and how it affects teens, along with resources for parents, teachers, and other caregivers.

Behavioral Health Hotline

Get free, confidential, real-time clinical help and guidance in over 200 languages by calling the Massachusetts Behavioral Health Help Line, with no insurance needed.

The Recovery Village

Overview: A comprehensive resource for understanding drug addiction and recovery. It includes information on symptoms, signs, and support for both parents and teens.

Partnership to End Addiction

Overview: Offers guidance on prevention, treatment, and recovery. Provides tools and support for families dealing with substance use issues.

Addiction Center

Overview: Offers information on addiction types, treatment options, and guides on how to talk to kids about drugs and alcohol.

The National Drug Helpline

Overview: Provides 24/7 support and resources for parents, offering help with understanding and addressing substance use problems among teens.